sweet indulgences
do you ever indulge? you parents out there? whether it be in a $4.29 double tall, nonfat, no whip, white mocha (which i am currently consuming)… a pedicure… a trip to your favorite beer shop, in the case of my hub, the beer shop that sells the good stuff (which does not include bud light)… hell, even indulging by taking a nap!
of course it goes without saying that my favorite indulgence is wine… good wine.
so, do you ever indulge?
i find myself indulging, really indulging, when i am at my limit. when i no longer know what day of the week it is, or what month it is. when i am seeing double because i’m going on such little sleep. when the sleep that i get is consumed with anxiety. when i find myself too wiped out to fully engage myself with my son. that’s when i know i need a break. i need something for me.
for some reason, indulging leaves me feeling guilty.
friday, i peace out of annapolis for a week… a whole week. jackson is spending a week being spoiled by both sets of grandparents in atlanta. my mom and i will drive to jacksonville, florida this weekend to spoil rachel, jackson’s godmother at her baby shower FOR HER TWINS. mom and i will then drive back to atlanta on sunday because…
MONDAY I LEAVE FOR A 4 DAY CRUISE TO THE BAHAMAS WITH MY BROTHER!!!
i am so beyond excited about these two trips of mine that i started packing last weekend. my goal is to survive til friday, get my son in the arms of my mother-in-law, and drive on down to jacksonville, at which point i will cover rachel‘s belly will kisses and rubs, massage her feet, and love on her til she or her husband kicks me out. i have not seen jackson’s wonderful godparents since decemeber, when we moved from jacksonville to annapolis… a few short days after we left, they secretly told us via skype that they were expecting TWINS!!! needless to say, i am ready to see my VERY PREGNANT friend (and you too billy).
the 5 hour drive from atlanta to jacksonville will be an indulgence in itself… i get 5 hours in the car with my mom. 5 hours of uninterrupted, peaceful enjoyment of her company. the drive will be a treat. and then she gets to spoil my friend with me for the remainder of the weekend.
upon driving back to atlanta on sunday, i will enjoy an evening with my magoo, transfer him to my parent’s house, and then monday morning, fly to miami and set sail with my brother, where he and i will spend the week indulging to the nth degree in the bahamas.
this is my brother. yes, he is single.
part of me feels guilty that i’m not going on this cruise with my husband… this cruise was a gift to brian from paul and i for his graduation from UGA. brian and i are unbelievably close and i’m so stoked to have 4 full days in paradise enjoying my brother. paul understands that, and i’m sure he will indulge in his own ways back here at home, being wife-less and child-less for an entire week. (((snicker snicker)))
so, dear readers, what are your indulgences? your guilty pleasures? do you indulge? do you feel guilty for indulging?
indulge me with your comments…
46 Responses to sweet indulgences
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Okay, so, I’m totally happy you are going to enjoy yourself but … are you going to be incommunicado? Because I’ll pretty much be dying over here if so.
My indulgence is… a long, hot shower where I take the time to debate the merits of one body wash versus the others
That’s about it. When I’m really worn out I’ll get a bottle of wine, but I rarely even end up finishing it because I’m still breastfeeding so frequently and worried about alcohol content in my milk.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
I would be packing weeks in advance too!! Sounds like you are going to have a great trip and some good times with your family and friends. My indulgences include my Starbucks lattes, buying & reading piles of magazines with the occasional new cookbook thrown in.
Beer store here I come !!!
LMAO oh how i love you.
Great topic here. And sad to say, not something I do enough of. When I was married (well I still am but I’ve been seperated for two years and a single mama now) the best thing I ever did was go on a yoga retreat in Mexico for five days, without my children or husband. Just with some girls from the yoga studio I trained to be a teacher at. It was the first time I was EVER away from my kids (my parents live in another country, so I don’t have built in babysitters there..) My son was three at the time and my daughter was seven. I had to leave a nine page document of instructions for my husband and he has never been as glad to see me when I returned (hah) but it was the BEST. I came home renewed and rejuvanated from both the yoga that we did during the day, the beach time and reading time and the drinking at night. A true gift to myself.
Sad to say, those days are over. I haven’t done anything for just me in a long, long time and it does affect the way I parent sometimes. When I’m stressed to the max, I find taking my kids to the gym with me is one good way to improve my mood and overall attitude. Exercise has always worked well for me, so I make sure to make time for it when I can.
ENJOY your cruise, your child free time and your brother – we’ll miss you!
Tricia (irishsamom)
Wow, cruises & travel & warm weather. I’m jealous.
-pedicures
-facials
-Starbucks Iced Triple Grande Non-fat Caramel Macchiato
-grabbing a bunch of books, travel, magazines and taking one of those soft leather couches at Borders all to myself
that would make for a perfect day if I had to be without my kids
Betty Crocker’s Warm Delights. A pedicure, but rarely, because that is also a time indulgence which I find harder to accomplish. Bad TV at night instead of bonding with my husband. Ignoring my mother’s phone calls (LOL). S’mores. “Me” time at Barnes & Noble with my laptop, wifi, a magazine I won’t buy but will read AND a coffee from Starbucks.. Skinny vanilla latte, thanksverymuch.
Indulging is OK. I hope that your trips are WONDERFUL!
Long hot baths, peanut butter M&Ms and the occasional white chocolate mocha, venti from starbucks.
I hope you have a fabulous time on your trip. Indulge away, you deserve it.
I don’t indulge enough. My indulgences these days include
- a good bottle of wine.
- a hot bath and a good book
- a nap while Maya is napping (instead of cleaning up or doing other things I should be doing).
oh and in the winter a huge starbuck’s hot chocolate (I don’t do coffee or caffeine really)
big ASS coke from a gas station down here, chocolate or mocha from a good coffee shop… and definitely feel guilty sometimes but who cares – sometimes you gotta do what you need to survive
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I indulge by going shopping, even if it is only thrift store shopping…it has to be kids free of course. Also, I relate I am taking my oldest son to MN in August it was supposed to be a family trip, but because of Ezra’s leukemia we can’t all go now. And I feel terribly guilty about it! And I am already worrying, like I am already there.
I try to sneak off w/my SIL, but honestly my husband calls about 7,000 times. What we have just done twice recently though is let him spend the night with his in-town grandma (MIL). They both love it, and honey so do we. My hubs is my BFF so I would rather have time out with him than alone. We went shopping, dinner, and a movie. It was pure heaven, but not having Mason there in the morning is kinda a downer, but worth it for our date night.
We’re consistently broke, so there’s not a lot of indulging going on, but when I can it includes:
*Reading a good book instead of cleaning the house sometimes
*Before I got pregnant again, it was coffee once a day
*When we were in the military, we had no babysitters for 4 years, but now that we’re home we occasionally let my MIL watch the boys overnight while we go out to a restaurant – olive garden usually, if I have my way.
Enjoy your cruise! I’ve been saving for a kid-free vacation for years… still can’t afford one.
So I”m sitting here thinking…indulgences. Hmm, indulgences? Oh there’s the common ones, I suppose…long shower where I can actually shave my legs (ooh), guacamole made tableside at the best Mexican restaurant in town, a good GOOD bottle of wine, hot sex, new shoes, new undies… the list goes on.
But what about the other things, the things you can’t consume, or count. That don’t cost anything? That take so little energy to produce…That’s what I think of right now. It all comes down to time. And connections. A long conversation with the people closest to me. A day with my sister. These are the things I would choose to indulge in most if and when I could. Oh, and of course the Secret Weekend with the huz is up there as the most indulgent I’ve been in years. But really? It’s talking on the phone with no cares for cell phone minutes or bedtimes or kids under foot. Talking and laughing and reminiscing and tearing up all over the house as I pace and talk and talk and pace and talk – on the phone, best friends, feeling that closeness deep in my bones. Ahhhh.
Does that make sense? Oh hell.
First, do you know liz at …but then i had kids? Because she is going on a four-day cruise, too.
Anyhoo…indulgences. I guess I’d have to agree with Sarah up there. We can’t seem to find a day to spend together, and that would really do me some good. Throw in a perfect margarita or two and some of that table-side guac and I’ll be feeling like a real adult again.
As for your brother, do you think he would relocate to Massachusetts? I have a few friends…
Have a GREAT time!
@Jen dunno about massachusetts… i’ll ask him.
I have no children, but I think indulging is important for everyone’s health and sanity. If I need to indulge, my big indulgence is time. Just allowing myself to do nothing, or something, or whatever I want. Sitting and knitting, reading, drinking wine and tweeting, a nap, whatever sounds good to me at the time. The laundry and dishes can wait, my ever growing and rapidly expanding pile or work can wait, I need a break.
It’s good for you, I’m glad you take the time to do it. 
And by the way – your brother is hot! hehe
You know, I never actually liked being alone till having my boy. Now, an afternoon or evening to myself feels like an indulgence. And when I feel *really* crazy, I’ll go to the mall or the bookstore on my lunch break and browse and maybe even buy something at my leisure—and shopping is something I never really enjoyed before either.