i quit my sorority and i don’t do clubs
it’s true. i’m a chi omega and i quit… but technically you CAN’T quit because upon becoming initiated (which i endured, don’t ask me why because i still don’t know) you’ll ALWAYS be a chi o.
and yeah, i pronounced it “chee omega” for the first month that i was a pledge because i didn’t know any better nor did i care.
and then i quit.
i actually once went to chapter (the weekly meetings you have to attend) without wearing a bra. it’s true. i had on black pants, because unless you were in a skirt or dress you had to wear black pants, and paul’s powerade t-shirt from football camp, sans bra and just kept my fleece on the entire meeting.
my pin was on my fleece.
sure, i may have sweat a little for wearing my fleece during the entire meeting, but it was worth it to me if it meant i didn’t have to put a bra and a cute top on for an hour.
sororities are all well and good and have been around for i don’t know how long and it’s not that i dislike you if you’re in one because i actually lived in a house with 7 girls in college, all of whom are chi o’s except for me but not except for me because technically i’m still a chi o… NO I’M NOT… yes, i am…
see? it’s confusing, even to me.
i am not a member of the officer’s spouses club for the navy. my husband is a pilot. he is an officer. i’m in the club by association… guilty by association… whatever. i don’t attend events related to that kind of stuff unless paul asks me to, and when i do, i’m usually NOT pleased about it because it means that i have to wear something formal which means that i will be in uncomfortable shoes, which means that there better be an open bar in order to make things tolerable.
i’m not in a mommy-and-me group with the magoo. i’ve scoped it out and they kind of scare me. comparing children and the milestones they have or have yet to reach is not something i’m open to sharing publicly unless it’s on my blog because jackson gained a pound, or with his pediatrician.
so yeah, i have a stigma, you could say, when it comes to “groups” and “clubs” of sorts.
but i’m going to this thing tomorrow night.
i know… i’ll give you a moment to pick your jaw up from off the floor.
done? ok, good.
so now that i’ve stated it publicly, i’m committed.
and don’t get me wrong, i had a fantastic phone conversation with the woman who is hosting and she eased my fears as i told her that i straight up don’t do clubs and group organizations and i quit my sorority because of it and i have anxiety and will NOT KNOW A SINGLE SOUL AT THIS EVENT.
but i’m going. hell, i even have a ride.
because… i have this blog and i like this blog and with this blog comes readers… who i then begin conversing with on twitter… and then all of a sudden these events come up.
and it means that not only do you meet face-to-face with the person behind the computer screen…
THEY MEET YOU.
so, those of you who i will meet tomorrow and those of you who will meet me tomorrow… just know this… while i lay it all out here on my blog, allowing the entire internetz into my life and my wackadoo mind, i’m kinda scared of y’all.
i will most likely pop a xanax on my way there.
but i’m going.
i’ll be there.
because dammit, i have a cute new dress.
and i really need a night out.
but don’t try and get me to join anything or sign up for anything.
it won’t happen.
unless it involves free wine.
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from someone who met you during the sorority rush thing, the hating samford thing, the refusing the be like everyone else on campus thing…they will love you, as did (do) i. have fun (and hit up the free booze)!
@msklk08, LOL!!!! kim, i so forgot that you read my blog!!!! and now i’m wetting my pants over memories of freshman year and whatever it’s called the night we got our cards saying what sorority picked us… “squeal night”??? whatever. it sucked. i love you.
You better be ready to share some of the xanax, sister! Can’t wait to meet you IN REAL LIFE with the hot dress. Of course we have already discussed the fact that there will be plenty o wine.
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@JenniferG – Hip As I Wanna Be, ok, you CAN’T be nervous and in need of xanax. YOU’RE THE HOSTESS. but, i too am looking forward to meeting you.
I got kicked out of my sorority. We should form a non-club about not wanting to be in clubs. Or, something. Except, that kind of makes us sound like we are eight years old. Which is the appropriate age to be in a club. Wait, who mentioned the open bar?
@Melissa Wardy, LOL!!!! i wanna hear more about this getting kicked out of your sorority thing. mostly because i’m pretty sure that if i hadn’t quit, i would’ve been kicked out shortly there after.
hold me.
I am not a group, organization, club kinda person either so I totally get this. Besides being horribly shy, I’m also not really into the whole commitment thing often required. I hope you have a great time tomorrow night and meet some amazing fellow bloggers.
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@Lisa, yeah, i don’t do commitments… oh wait, i am married… uhhh, what i meant was, i don’t sign up for stuff cuz typically i don’t follow through… wait, that’s not it… now i sound like a flake… what i REALLY mean is that i need you to come hold my hand.
yeah, that’s it.
Okay, you don’t “know” me but I will be there too!
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@Sunday Stilwell, i know!!! i saw that and i am excited to meet you!!!
I’m a Chi-O too!!! I’m sorry that you don’t feel like being more involved…you really get out of the sisterhood what you put into it.
~WM
.-= Working Mommy´s last blog ..Lesson #79 – Bags Are Made To Keep Us Organized {Giveaway} =-.
@Working Mommy, it’s all good and worked out for the best… for me.
I’m more of a quitter than a joiner…which is confusing because you have to join something in the first place to be able to quit it, right? Normally, I just get to scared of change to even sign up for anything in the first place. Joining stuff is like the first day of work at a new job, scary as it gets………..except when you join a club, there is no paycheck at the end of the week, which doesn’t make it worth it at all.
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@Rebecca, “a quitter than a joiner…” that’s just about hitting the nail ON THE DAMN HEAD for me.
I got some sort of crazy message about seven times when I tried to comment…something about cookies and java script and notifying the blog owner……My comment eventually went through, but…I got this long message the first few times saying it wasn’t going to work
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@Rebecca, sorry! sometimes after i tweet out a new post, my blog gets constipated. i’ll see what i can do for a bloggy laxative.
pics of you in the dress! pics of you in the dress!
have fun mama
@elle, most def!!!!
Have fun Nic! I am sure it will be a blast and at the very least it will be something different and new! You can do it!
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@Heather @ Brace Yourselves, thanks for the encouragement sweet one!!!
Also, I fully recognize how annoying it is that I just used 3 exclamation points in one comment.
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@Heather @ Brace Yourselves, i have NO IDEA what you are talking about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
xanax is good! I highly recommend it! You go girl and I’ll tell you like my grandmother used to say to me… “go… you just might have fun”!!!
@Susan Howard, thanks for the xanax props, susan. me loves ya looooong time mama. loooong time.
I really feel where your coming from. Im fine and dandy behind this screen, but then OMG real people, in front of my face? oh no! And also, the commitment thing, not that I am a flake its just sometimes life gets in the way and I cant follow through with things..no, not a flake either LOL..its also putting myself out there and in a vulnerable position, people then see the real me, Im actually really outgoing once I KNOW someone for a bit, I guess I have issues LOL. you will be fine, do great, have fun! enjoy yourself! and rock that dress!
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@jenn, i swear, it’s like you’re in my head and taking the words out and then placing them in this comment… especially the outgoing once i KNOW someone for a bit. i’ll rock the dress for ya!!!
@Nic, iz in ur headz stealin ur wordz
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@jenn, can’t think of anyone better i’d rather share my thoughts with girl.
also how the crap does this old photo of me keep showing up on some blogs, and on others my new photo? geez, this is like six years ago and makes me look twelve and wow I had a desktop back then LOL
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@jenn, i dunno… what photo is supposed to be there?
You wouldn’t happen to be wearing the fabulous dress you twit-pic’d the other day to this shindig would you? That dress would give anyone a reason to go anywhere! Have a good time and enjoy stepping outside of your comfort zone. It’s something we all should do more often.
@knoxvillepixie, nope. sorry suga cakes, not wearing the twitpic dress… saving that little number for one of the 4 weddings we have to attend in july and august. pics of dress to come… tomorrow… when i am “comfortable” enough to take photos (code: have a glass of wine in me.)
I was once in a sorority, and I am also a quitter. It does suck that you can never really disconnect from them, right? I was in it for like a month, went to one chapter meeting too, and raised hell in the meeting because…crap, I can’t remember. I was there long enough to get wasted on their dime, trash the kitchen after trying to make a drunken PB&J, and then walk out with my middle finger extended. To say it kindly:
It just wasn’t for me
By the way, do you not love Marya Hornbacher??? I’ve read her books and love her so. I saw “Wasted” in your book widget and had to tell you I’m a huge fan too.
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@Tricia, thanks so much for the comment! i love the middle finger, get wasted on their dime reference… hysterical, and i related to it a LITTLE TOO MUCH…
that aside… LOVE, Marya Hornbacher… there is a reason why she is on my amazon.com widget… EXQUISITE she is… if you’re a fan of her work, i’d recommend “come back” by claire and mia fontaine. mother/daughter memoir and utterly memorable and powerful. cheers!
Yep. Meeting people makes me physically ill at times (I’m getting better, lol)
Fingers crossed that you’ll have a blast!
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@thepsychobabble, thanks lady.
if i find myself hurling in the bathroom due to nerves, i won’t feel so alone now.
I’m glad you came to the thing and I came to the thing because I really enjoyed meeting you. And I’m enjoying your blog. AND I’m going to check out Hair Thursday and enjoy that, too. So there is just a lot of enjoyment happening because you came to the thing. Thanks.
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OHMYGOSH, I’M SO GLAD TO HAVE SPENT TIME TALKING WITH YOU LAST NIGHT!!!! it was wonderful swapping stories from tattoos to hair thursday, which i really hope you enjoy because sarah is one of MY FAVES!!! i’m glad you are enjoying your sunday morning. keep in touch, my new friend!!!
I was a GDI in college because I would never be Greek…by choice. I never did Mommy and Me play groups because I worked and I know that when I grew up, my mom did not need a group for me to play. I just played. My boys were in Cub Scouts and one reason I quit is that in Jr. Mac’s group, I was the ONLY single FEMALE parent. Even though the men were nice to me, I was a Pariah, surely only there to sink my divorced fangs and claws into their Ken doll husbands. My sons are not in organized sports because I don’t want MY soical life dictated my men and women who are trying to relive their glory days through my child. I totally get what you are saying. I love people, but I don’t want a group to organize my life for me.
Cheers
Good luck on your event. Have fun, and maybe wear a bra.
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@LisaB, to each their own my love…
you are wonderful. thank you for your well wishes. last night turned out to be really good and i met some awesome people, after i spent the first 12 minutes in the bathroom trying NOT to freak out.
and yes, i wore a bra.
wasn’t it totally worth it! great to meet your even for a couple minutes. we should arrange a play date LOLOL
@Melinda, it was A LOT of fun!!! i know, we should. i’m pouting for having such little time to have spoken with you.
Well as your chauffeur to the event I for one am *GLAD* you decided to go, because chatting with you non-stop an hour up and an hour back (and, um TRYING to hide in the car…) was (no offense to an awesome, awesome party at which I had a BLAST) my fave part of the event.
Hope to carpool with you again soon! Next time, I promise to program the GPS before I leave so we don’t have to pull over.
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I went to a few of those mommy and me clubs…and didn’t find anyone interesting there. It didn’t hold my interest, or Nolan’s for that matter. I was uncomfortable comparing milestones and what not too…
I don’t think I’d be able to go to a huge blogger meet up (i.e blogher…) although I’d want to…I just get all anxious and super freaked out and I don’t have any xanax to take lol.
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I LOVE that you pronounced it “chee”. That just shows your connection to your inner self, your spirituality, and the world.
You will have a great time. Once you go to one, they get easier from there. They are awesome and everyone will love you! Enjoy!
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